When you have a child in your care who begs to eat an entire large bag of candy 30 minutes before mealtime, you aren't likely to allow that. As an adult, you understand better than the youngster that eating that much candy is not a wise choice and eating anything so close to mealtime is not a good plan.
In this scenario, you are making healthy decisions where a child is concerned.
On the other hand, if you were the caretaker of a youngster who wears a life jacket, has taken Red Cross swimming instruction and requests to swim in a pool where there is a lifeguard but you denied that request for fear he might drown, that would come down on the side of over protection with respect to a child.
What is there about healthy decisions? Where does an unhealthy decision originate? How do healthy decisions happen?
According to Dan Gilbert and Harvard University, all decisions come from our programming. Our hearts-the 'I love you with all my heart' heart-have all the information we have been given during our entire lifetime.
Dr. Alex Loyd teaches that programming offered from fear, shame, guilt and anger is incorrect and false. Dr. Loyd calls this programming "heart junk."
In the examples we offer the first one indicates a healthy decision borne of truth and love. The second example shows what a decision looks like when it comes from a place of fear or anger.
The underlying issue in coming from a place of fear or anger is control and expectation. The person who wants to demand a desired outcome is looking at the end result, expecting his wishes to materialize. That person suffers from the stress brought on by the Fight or Flight response triggered by anger or fear. The better outcome would take place for all concerned if the "Controller" could set aside the bad feelings and focus only on the situation that IS in the present.
This is not a situation where a "quick fix" will ameliorate any given situation. Time, patience, love, truth, and tools to effect a change are required.
One of the most effective tools known to help people learn how to relinquish control is
Energy Medicine. When Energy Medicine is employed, there is a strategy, a protocol, a set of rules to help the heart junk to dissipated. When the heart junk is gone, only truth and love can remain. This is very helpful in making good, healthy decisions in peoples' lives.
We are meant to exist in love with joy and peace and abundance. If you are not
experiencing these fruits you might be well advised to look into what The Healing Codes might do to improve the quality of your life and the lives of those you hold dear.
Incidentally, if you are one of the many people who have experienced the transformational effects of Energy Medicine and The Healing Codes won't you please share your experiences with us by placing a comment in the comment box so all can benefit? We so appreciate your efforts in this regard. Thank you.
Hi Connie:
ReplyDeleteyou've been peaking inside my thoughts again haven't you? LOL
I've had a lifetime struggle with a fear of heights. This can be especially frustrating because at times, this fear is an irrational fear, other times it is justified.
I appreciate that you share exactly where this fear comes from which is control issues. My head knows it...my body and heart need to comprehend it too. I posted a blog post about this not too long ago. You can see it here: http://www.writewhereyouareblog.com/?p=2397
Oh, Rainy!
ReplyDeleteI think this is such a common thread through all our lives.
Your comment is so gratefully received and I do hope everyone follows your link to a well written blog about this very issue!
Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by and leave your thumbprint.
Hugs
Mother Connie